Fear- Boyace Van Harlan Jr.,PhD

image“F E A R has two meanings….
Forget everything and run.
Face everything and rise.
The choice is yours.”
Zig Zagler (via luna—belle)

“Fear is not your enemy. It is a compass pointing you to the areas where you need to grow.”
Steve Pavlina

Whatever you are fearing today face it head-on!

Know that your God is with you. He will never leave nor forsake you. Find your center and stay there. Be solution oriented. Search your faith files and find examples where He did it before. If He did it then He can do it again. Go for it. Don’t doubt ,waver, or vacillate.


Don’t Complain- Boyace Van Harlan Jr., PhD

imageMy father took the opportunity to make almost every situation in my life as an object lesson. One of his choice admonitions was to never complain. He often said that when you complain you open yourself to more misery. You say to to God I don’t trust you please give more experiences so that I may learn this lesson well.

“See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim.” Your situation will never change for the better until you can accept what is.

Choose Your Battles- Boyace Van Harlan Jr.,PhD

“It has nothing to do with effort. Just turn away, look between the thoughts, rather than at the thoughts. When you happen to walk in a crowd, you do not fight every man you meet, you just find your way between. When you fight, you invite a fight. But when you do not resist, you meet no resistance. When you refuse to play the game, you are out of it.”

Make the simple life your choice. Every battle is not your own. Choose to walk away and live another day. The big fish does not become big by eating every thing that comes his way. After all, some meal may be only camouflaged bait! Just walk away! Live to see another day!

God Gives To The Sower!- Boyace Van Harlan Jr.,PhD

“It will never rain roses: when we want to have more roses, we must plant more roses.” – George Eliot

What we give will always come back to us. It is a law. You can’t give love  and expect different in return. Stop hoping and waiting on things to change. Become the change you want to see in the world. We see the world not as it is but as we are! Start now and plant goodness. And watch the return! Pressed down and shakened together!

5 Pathways to Empowertment- Boyace Van Harlan Jr., PhD

There has been a lot written recently about developing the correct mindset in order to achieve success. Success does not happen by chance. Why even bother if it is so hard? Why not just go with the flow and see what the end is going to be? Most of us wait for someone to come along and help us, inspire us, motivate us. Like the man at the Pool FOR SOME MAN OR ANGEL TO GET HIM TO THE HEALING WATERS. I have thought about this a lot and I think there are 5 pathways to our success!

1. Focus

There are so many things vying for our attention today. Gone are the days when children played with sticks and rocks and with great imagination created all kinds of games and entertainment. Now they have game consoles that are so  real they no longer go outside to play.Between social media notifications,email pings, and message alerts, your life becomes a “taffy pull” leaving us spread out in all directions.It makes it entirely impossible to concentrate for any length of time.Successful people recognize that focus is essential for any type of success. Focusing on one task at a time, making certain that the task gets done.This is the very skill that will get you ahead of everyone else! Fron noise-cancelling headphones to isolation rooms, do what you need to focus…but focus! when you have fewer distracions, you will finf that focus is not hard to achieve.

2. Resilience Understanding that gains can not come without losses, hits can not come with out strike outs lets us know that failure is not fatal. Resilience is about having some bouce-back! Picking yourself up after a miserable fall, dusting yoursaelf off and starting over again! Risilience over time can be developed. Read books, articles about it. Find conferences, Siminars to develop it.When you are resilient no thing , no circumstance can hold you down or back!

3. Discipline

Discipline is the most important pathway of all. Learning to postpone your gratification, developing patience. You really don’t hear a lot of people even talking about discipline these days. It is an old fashion term to most people. Just watch Mellineals as they try to publical disipline thier children. It seems to me that the children are in charge. Let define discipline as it relates to this article. Discipline is your ability to control your impulses and emotions. You should dial up discipline when you are on a diet and a well-intention friend offers you an extra large slice of pie, and you should dial it up when your favorite TV program comes on and you know you must get student’s papers graged by tonight. Discipline allows you to continue down the pathway to success.

4. Courage

Courage is as equally important as discipline becausee you can use it to defeat fear. Fear is inevitable if you are going somewhere. whenever I personally feel fear I simply remember that fear feels the same wasy as excitement feels. So call my fear excitement that needs an attitude ajustment. Courage is the only antidote to fear! To build courage, face your fears, so that you can enhance your ability to be brave.Increasing your capacity for courage is an invaluable exercise

5. Faith

Faith in God! God is bigger thatn our problems. Heis bigger thatn our situations. Jesus told us that we don’t have to have a lot. Faith as a grain of mustard seed. The good news is that we all have been given a measure of it. Here is ith big clincher! Our faith is enough to get the job done.




I thank God every day for love. Love for my God, myself, and others.

“Wisdom tells me I am nothing. 
Love tells me I am everything. 
Between the two my life flows.”
Nisargadatta Maharaj